Not Sure How to Achieve Orgasm?
Rule #1: Don't Bluff!

If you fool a man into thinking that you've had an orgasm, although you may spare his precious ego, you will always be left unfulfilled.

Take the picture shown beneath the headline for example. This is our model, Sarah. We asked her to give us her most provocative pose. (Kudos to Sarah for a job well done) It appears as though she has just had a wonderfully liberating orgasm. On the other hand, is it possible that Sarah was left longing for more?
Not sure?
Don't worry; we're not sure either...

Her boyfriend, Joe sure as heck isn't sure what's going on. He will believe what ever Sarah wants him to believe.

Now, before we go blaming men and "Average Joe's" for all of our problems, let's keep in mind that these guys are only partially responsible for our inability to climax. First, we need to understand how to achieve orgasm on our own before we can expect our lovers to take us to the point of no return.

These contractions can bring you intense pleasure because they occur at the end of the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle. The orgasm is the top of the mountain, the pinnacle. Afterwards, you will feel a great sense of calm and gratification because your escalating sexual tension and passion have come to a crescendo- and then... aah release. You betcha!

Unlike men, however, we tend to need emotional stimulation before we can climax. The first step is to shift the attention away from purely physical contact.

Pamper Yourself

Don't bring stress from work home with you. Focus on the moment. Turn off the television. It's all about you right now so don't let anything distract you.

Dim the lights and watch an erotic movie. Take a warm bubble bath surrounded by spicy aromatic candles. Caress and moisturize your entire body with beautifully scented lotions and creams. Sooth your soul by indulging in some delectable delicacies (chocolate covered strawberries, for example) while listening to soft, sensuous music in the background.

The idea here is to electrify all five of your senses: sight, smell, taste, sound. If you have accomplished this, now you are ready to introduce the sense of touch.

In one regard, knowing how to achieve orgasm is a lot like playing poker- you need to develop a winning hand. In other words: Ladies, feel free to masturbate! Can I get an amen girls?

By all means, get to know your body and explore your orgasm spots . Despite any myths that you may have heard, you will probably discover that your clitoris is the most titillating erogenous zone on your body.

Many of us don't know how to achieve orgasm because we don't recognize that clitoral stimulation is more necessary to the female orgasm than vaginal penetration. That also explains why foreplay is so important and why many women don't climax from intercourse. The best way to stimulate your clitoris is with your fingers or with a vibrator. Click here to learn about how to use adult toys . (Oral sex is also a great way to arouse the clitoris. But for now, let's focus on getting to know our own bodies before adding another person to the equation.)

Another noteworthy part of the female anatomy is the G spot . This erogenous zone refers to an area about two inches into the vagina, on the front wall. On some women, the gland contained in this area is can cause female ejaculation when fully aroused. YIPEE!

If you have gained a good sense of what turns you on, now would be a good time to let your man out of the dog house!

That's right girl. Cut him a little slack. For the first seven years of my marriage, I was completely clueless about how to achieve orgasm. So, I think I was being a little unfair when I expected miracles from my husband.

Instead of scolding your man for being a bad lover- encourage him. Be gentle with that ever so delicate ego of his. To avoid him having performance anxiety, try to be honest with him without destroying his confidence. After all, he's just a sad little puppy dog in need of a little training.

(Make sure to pay a visit to www.better-sex-4-women.com for an in-depth look at female sexuality. You'll also find some great additional tips for achieving orgasm.)

Start off slowly... Encourage your man to engage you in some very
sensual massage .

When you are ready, begin to gradually transition into the next phase of foreplay. Start with lots of sensual kissing before moving on to petting and stroking. Take as much time as you need touching, teasing, and pleasing each other.

Although there's no need to rush, don't be afraid to get a little freaky. Have him penetrate you with a vibrator while he massages your clit the way you like it. Let him get a taste of your gloriously succulent pussy. If you are a little adventurous- have him put his finger in your butt. Some anal play might be just what the doctor ordered. (Remember to always use a good lubricant .) Suck his cock. Men love that, and turning him on should make you more turned on!

At this point, you should be ready to start screwing! Your man will probably be so excited that he will want to split you to your core like the porn star that he dreams of being.

However, you can encourage him to start off with slow rhythmic strokes. On the other hand, at this point maybe you are hornier than a rhinoceros, and all you want is for him to throw you around like a tossed salad. Hey, whatever floats your boat honey.

Just remember, communication is the key to helping the two of you learn how to achieve orgasm together.

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*For more information about how to achieve orgasm- the Sociology Department at the University of California, Santa Barbara has compiled a very informative website that is dedicated to human sexuality. Click here to learn more about masturbation, sex toys, how to achieve orgasm, and other related topics .