My husband, Randy is the man of my dreams. He's a charming, handsome, very hard-working physical therapist at a busy hospital in Little Rock, Arkansas.
When Randy is putting in long hours at the hospital- most of my time is spent at home raising our lovely 3 year old daughter, Shayna...
About a year ago, on a cool evening in November, Randy came home from work in his usual jovial mood. He was holding a small, plain-packaged cardboard box.
Beaming with anticipation, my husband didn't have to tell me what was in the box. I already knew. It was a shiny, new
silicone butt plug
.
You see, a few months earlier, Randy had been surfing the internet and stumbled across an advertisement looking for people who would test out and review sex toys. He and I had never used sex toys in our relationship, so I think the idea excited him.
When he asked me if I would be interested in trying out some free toys I thought- Sure, why not? It wasn't long before our first product arrived in the mail...
Up until the day the butt plug arrived, we had tested a couple of vibrators and a glass dildo. However, this was our first anal toy. I've got to admit, I was a little apprehensive.
The thought of anal sex had always freaked me out a little bit. I guess you can say that I've always been a little on the conservative side when it comes to sex. (I dated Randy for a year and a half before I ever gave him a blow job!)
Whenever my husband had attempted to give me an anal massage in the past, I had always brushed him off. At the same time, Randy is my partner and best friend in life, and I love him dearly. I knew that he would never do anything to hurt me.
So, when my man was standing there, in the kitchen, holding that precious little box under his arm and grinning like an eager school-boy, I didn't have the heart to say no.
Lucky for Randy, I had put our daughter to bed early that night...
Anal Massage for Beginners
The Truth is: Although it was very tolerable, I didn't particularly enjoy my first anal experience. Ironically, however, it wasn't very painful; and the slight discomfort that I experienced felt good in a way.
My biggest obstacle was trying to overcome my own personal hang-ups regarding the thought of anal sex. I viewed it as sort of perverse and nasty. I'm sure that society's negative stigma towards anal sex influenced my feelings as well. It took me a couple of sessions before I was able to fully appreciate the orgasmic sensations that anal play can produce.
I like to take a shower before having my husband come anywhere near my rear end. I'm pretty uncomfortable with the thought of him encountering any possible fecal residue or unpleasant odor. I may be going a little bit overboard, but I'm usually careful about what I eat before getting my anal massage. It's perfectly natural to get a little gassy sometimes, and I do my best to avoid the embarrassment of having that happen. (Hey, I'm only human!)
I prefer anal massage over full penis-to-anus penetration because it is far less invasive. The first one or two times that you experiment with anal massage all you need is a finger and a high quality
lubricant
. Save the butt plugs and anal beads for the next time.
I must say, my husband has perfected what I call the anal orgasm-with-finger technique. Here's what he does:
First, he gets me in the mood by cleaning the entire house and filling the room with scented candles and other romantic favors. Then he strips me down to my birthday suit and begins to caress me all over my body with
sensual massage oils
. He takes his time with me and makes sure that I'm comfortable.
As my libido rises, Randy starts kissing me ever so tenderly before going down on me. Once I get really wet and into the groove, my husband will reach underneath my bottom and begin to massage my butt cheeks for a while.
Then, he tickles my butt hole by gently circling around it with his index finger as he continues to eat me out. Before going any further, he covers his entire finger with a water based lubricant. When I give him the green light, Randy will slowly insert the tip of his finger into my anus. At this point, his finger is no longer moving. He'll just keep things stationary for a moment, while his finger is only partially inserted into my rectum. Initially, a little more than the length of an eraser head on a new pencil is all that is necessary.
As my butt hole begins to loosen, my husband will insert the remainder of the first digit of his index finger inside of me. He does this by slowly turning his finger in a spiral-like motion while applying very slight pressure. Then, he'll stop again and ask if I'm okay. He'll continue on like this until his entire index finger is inside of me.
Only when I'm ready, Randy will start slowly maneuvering his finger again; this time moving in and out ever so slightly. He'll also rotate his finger, gently twisting back and forth between clock-wise and counter clock-wise. It feels incredible. The combination of his finger in my butt and him eating me out is nothing short of pure bliss!
My erotic anal massage usually ends with my husband flipping me over to my stomach. He'll then proceed to pour more lubricant directly into my anus. Randy will go back and forth between fingering my butt and massaging all over my lower back, rear end, and between my thighs.
He progressively uses more force as he proceeds, and sometimes my husband spanks me. It's not long before he's managed to sneak a butt plug into my tushy. (Trust me, I don't mind!). This is even more pleasurable than his finger. (I would rate his finger a 7 or maybe an 8 on the pleasure scale. The butt plug is a 10!)
I believe that the butt plug feels so amazing because it is just the right size and shape to stimulate all of the sensitive nerve endings in my anus. There must be thousands of them because it brings me to orgasm every time.
I also love the slick feeling of the silicone material gliding ever so smoothly in and out of my rear end. I recommend using a
silicone butt plug
because it is extremely durable and will last much longer than a cheaper material. Not to mention, silicone is non-toxic and non-porous. So, clean up is a breeze and I don't have to worry about infection.
I'll close by saying that anal massage might just provide the spark that you and your lover need in order to spice things up or rejuvenate your relationship. It is the perfect way to introduce anal sex to those who may not be ready for full penis-to-anus penetration. Just remember to practice your anal massage techniques in stages. Do one thing at a time, taking as long as you need.
For those of you who still think that anal massage is too naughty for your tastes- Hey, don't knock it till you try it!
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